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From Maesk Counseling in Fort Lauderdale - Counseling for Children

Child counseling can be extremely successful if you support your child throughout the counseling process. Family counseling also works wonders if everyone bands together and supports each other through the changes that are being made. Follow these tips to support your child and family in therapy:

1. Be there to listen and offer caring support, without judgment, to your child during the time in child therapy

2. Meet with the child’s counselor to make sure personalities are a match for you and your child.

3. Be open and talk frequently with your child. Make sure discussions are age appropriate; early school aged children need brief, simple discussions or explanations, upper elementary age children may ask more detailed questions and may need help figuring out reality from fiction.

4. Don’t pressure the child to talk to you about what happened in the child counseling session, your child may tell you in his/her own time in his/her own way.

5. Keep the lines of communication open with the child’s counselor and the child. Showing your child that you trust the child’s counselor helps build trust.

6. Try not to rush change. Remember trust is built over time; it’s not any different in child and family counseling. Allow time for your child to learn to trust his/her counselor. If you become intimidated by the child-counselor relationship, bring it up to the counselor (there’s nothing to be embarrassed about).

7. Patience is extremely important throughout the child and family counseling process. Children often don’t know how to express their emotions and fears like an adult would, therefore may have some temporary behavior changes throughout the process.

8. Be a good role model, show the child you are willing to take care of yourself and if you need counseling, seek it.

9. Make time to discuss your child’s worries, fears, and even accomplishments. Be sure to turn off any distractions (phones, TV, video games, etc.) so your child knows how important the time with your child is to you.

10. Most importantly, enjoy favorite activities with your child alone and with the entire family.

If you have any questions, throughout the process, speak up. Maesk Group Counseling is here to help!

 

From Maesk Group Counseling in Fort Lauderdale - Family Therapy - It Helps!

Maybe you have asked yourself this question while yelling at your teenager, struggling with the family budget, or watching your spouse work too much. Let’s explore some answers that might help you understand the benefits of sitting your family down together under the guidance of a licensed therapist.

  • It gives everyone an equal voice. I am trained to observe and detect what isn’t necessarily said out loud. I can help a teen find words to express their needs, which is much harder for teens than adults.
  • It’s a safe place. A rule is established at the beginning of therapy that no one can be punished outside of session for what they say IN session. All members must agree to this rule.
  • Everyone learns to communicate. I teach skills, such as using “I feel” instead of “you should” and to avoid the use of “never” or “always” when talking to loved ones. Defenses are lowered and love can flow more freely.
  • It helps you see things from their point of view. I can help each member of the family articulate desires and feelings, then teach you how to reflect that back in a calm way.
  • You learn to focus on the positive. I use exercises that are especially designed to bring good memories and positive thoughts about each family member to the forefront, increasing your bond with each other.
  • Agreements can be forged. I have expertise in mediating family contracts, such as Teen Rights to the Car Keys, Work Hours for Dad, and Adult Child Living at Home. This teaches children how the real world functions, with responsibilities, rewards, and consequences.
  • Secrets can be aired and resolved. Children know so much more about what’s going on behind the scenes than parents allow themselves to realize. Unhealthy secrets can be discussed and resolved, and questions answered.
  • Mutual respect can be taught. Families often use sarcasm or abrasive “teasing,” which can scar a child. I can help you see where you might be unintentionally inflicting hurt.
  • You have a safe place to be real. The pressure to put on a happy family face to the world can be exhausting. My office is a place where we can observe how families protect some members and blame others, and resolve that pattern.
  • Responsibilities can be balanced. Often Mom is the primary caretaker, taking on chores that rightly belong to the rest of the family. I can help you work through a reasonable and fair plan to share the load.

If this sounds like what your family needs, let’s get started! Call me today for an appointment.

From Maesk Group Counseling in Fort Lauderdale - Talking to Your Child

How to to Help Your Child Listen and Follow Directions

1.  Get close to them and use their name to get their attention first.  It is not helpful to call from across the room.  For example, go up to your child and say, “Sally, I have something I need you to do.”  

2.  Once you have their attention and eye contact, give them the direction in an age-appropriate manner.  A three-year-old may not be able to do more than one step at a time.  You will likely be able to give your twelve-year-old 3 directions at a time.  For example, “Get dressed, eat breakfast, and go wait for the bus.”  

3.  Give directions with a calm, but serious voice.  Yelling will likely escalate your child, and this will not help them to be cooperative.  But you also want them to know that you are not joking around.

4.  Give directions in a positive manner.  Tell them what TO DO, instead of what NOT to do.  For example, say, “Walk, please,” instead of “Don’t run.”  Also, be descriptive so that they know exactly what you expect.  Instead of saying, “Be good,” which is very vague, say something like, “Put your hands on your lap and sit on your bottom.”  

5.  DO NOT ask a question when giving a direction.  Do NOT say, “Do you want to clean your room?” if this is not something that they can say no to.  Also, do NOT say, “It’s time to do your homework, okay?”  The okay and question at the end implies that it is up to them to decide.  

6. Provide two acceptable choices, such as, “You can eat breakfast or get dressed.  Which would you like to do first?”  You can even start by saying, “You have a choice!”  

7. Empathize with them if your child complains about what you asked them to do.  “I know you are having fun playing and don’t want to stop.”  “I understand that you don’t like cleaning your room.”  

8.  Give them something to look forward to after completing the task.  “As soon as you are finished putting away the dishes, you can go outside and play.”  

9.  Help them if the task is difficult, while still making sure they are doing their part.  “I will help you clean your room.  Would you like to put away your clothes or your toys?”  Then you can put away what they do not choose.         

10.  If nothing is working, tell them about the consequence if they do not complete the task.  Try to make it a natural consequence.  A natural consequence is something that would happen naturally as a result.  It also helps to give them a time frame.  For example, “If you do not get dressed before we leave for school, you will go to school in your pajamas.”  “If you do not put on your coat, you will be cold.”  Or if there is no natural consequence, try to make it related to the task.  “If you do not clean your room before bed time, I will take away those toys that are not cleaned up.”

11.  Enforce the time limit and the consequence.  It is important that your child knows that you mean business when you tell them something.  If you give in or do not follow through, they will learn that they can test you because they do not always have to do what you tell them.

12.  Children behave best when they are feeling loved.  Make sure that you spend plenty of positive, fun time with them. 

From Maesk Group Counseling in Fort Lauderdale - Teen / Adolescent Counseling

 

Fort Lauderdale’s climate and economic environment provide a pleasant, exciting life for the local persons as well as their children, but from time to time behavioral or just general life issues can appear which might spoil the fun. This is where the need for a Fort Lauderdale teen counseling professional comes into play and that’s exactly why you need to contact us right now.

But why is adolescent counseling and therapy important, how can it change and improve the life of your child? Let’s find that out!

It can brighten up the life of any teen

Many times, kids need psychotherapy or teen counseling in those situations when they have to face a major problem in their life. Be it the loss of their parents, the inability to feel like something is achieved in their life or just the fact that they break up with someone can bring some major behavioral issues and these have to be addressed properly by an adolescent counseling professional before they get worse.

Removes negative self-talk

During the adolescent years, teens tend to form their mature behavior and this is why having a teen counseling professional near them might prove to come in handy. Not only can he help remove the pressure that appears from hormonal changes, but at the same time the psychotherapy professional will help guide any teen away from negative self-talk and onward to a more productive state. This will allow any teen to feel better, more relaxed and achieve the results that he always wanted, without problems.

It can aid with improving the social aspect

During the teenage years, most of us tend to go through a multiple of social problems and this will eventually lead us to getting locked behind our own feelings and emotions. One of the best teen counseling therapy techniques comes in the form of group counseling, as this allows teens to meet other persons their age and connect with them. This allows them to improve the way they interact with the outside world, something that is very important.

Getting more confidence

Maybe the best thing about teen counseling is the fact that any adolescent has the unique opportunity to truly understand his power, skill and motivation, something that is very important in this day and age. Without knowing this it will be a lot harder to face the challenges that appear in life, and the adolescent counseling professional can help in a very positive fashion.

If your child is going through a hard time right now, then guiding him or her towards teen counseling might be the best option you can make. Not only does this help with achieving a good mental balance, but at the same time it will provide the proper guidance which is essential in the adolescent, developmental years. Don’t hesitate to contact Maesk Group Counseling in order to gain complete access to our teen counseling services immediately. You will be amazed at the high quality results and the amazing experience you can obtain by working with us - just send us an e-mail or call us right away at 954-353-4680!