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From Maesk Counseling in Fort Lauderdale - Depression and Self-talk

“I have depression, and I just can’t do ANYTHING right,” my client sighed as she settled further into the couch.  I've been in Fort Lauderdale for three years and have no friends.  Maybe I should just accept that I am fat, depressed and a failure at relationships. Nothing will help me.”

And as long as she chooses to continue talking to, and about, herself that way, she WILL be overweight, depressed and alone, and most importantly, unable to change, regardless of her therapist’s skills. For the fact is that every cell in our body responds to what we think and say about ourselves.

Although most of us are familiar with the “love our neighbors as ourselves” directive, we miss the meaning of the last part. Most of us wouldn’t dream of calling our neighbor names or criticizing them point-blank to their faces, yet we look in the mirror and do it to ourselves every day. We feel compassion for our friend’s struggles with food, relationships or other issues, yet we are merciless and impatient with our own. Self love is a vital key to health, and self condemnation the thing that most often keeps us from our goals. For instance, if you are having trouble ending an unhealthy relationship, AND you “beat yourself up” for your “weakness,” we now have THREE issues to overcome—the relationship, the self loathing, AND the damage done to your self image by the insult! Self love, forgiveness for our mistakes, and patience with our failures leads to the strength and discipline necessary to move forward into a healthy, balanced life.

To become your own encourager and best friend requires a deep examination of who taught you to be self-critical in the first place. Where did the “I’m not OK” message come from? It is most often from one of two sources—either what was said about you by your parent, or what a parent said about themselves in front of you. If you heard negativity modeled in your growing up years, the pattern was set for you to live that way as well. Children really do learn what they live. But like any learned behavior, this thinking pattern can be changed; sometimes by yourself, and sometimes with the help of a counselor if the pattern is persistent or severe.

To remain vital and healthy in your thinking throughout your lifetime, practice catching yourself when you are saying or thinking self-critical things. Immediately visualize a big red STOP sign to interrupt the pattern. Replace the self-criticism with a positive, encouraging thought, such as “I’m proud of myself for trying to change.”

 If you focus on what you DON”T like about yourself, you will get more of it, but focusing on the successes in your life will lead to more success. Congratulate yourself on victories, whether it’s a ten minute walk when you really just wanted to watch television, or keeping your temper in traffic.

All of us respond to love and encouragement, including when we give it to ourselves. Give yourself the gift of acceptance!  And let us know if we can help.

 

From Maesk Group Counseling in Fort Lauderdale - Teen / Adolescent Counseling

 

Fort Lauderdale’s climate and economic environment provide a pleasant, exciting life for the local persons as well as their children, but from time to time behavioral or just general life issues can appear which might spoil the fun. This is where the need for a Fort Lauderdale teen counseling professional comes into play and that’s exactly why you need to contact us right now.

But why is adolescent counseling and therapy important, how can it change and improve the life of your child? Let’s find that out!

It can brighten up the life of any teen

Many times, kids need psychotherapy or teen counseling in those situations when they have to face a major problem in their life. Be it the loss of their parents, the inability to feel like something is achieved in their life or just the fact that they break up with someone can bring some major behavioral issues and these have to be addressed properly by an adolescent counseling professional before they get worse.

Removes negative self-talk

During the adolescent years, teens tend to form their mature behavior and this is why having a teen counseling professional near them might prove to come in handy. Not only can he help remove the pressure that appears from hormonal changes, but at the same time the psychotherapy professional will help guide any teen away from negative self-talk and onward to a more productive state. This will allow any teen to feel better, more relaxed and achieve the results that he always wanted, without problems.

It can aid with improving the social aspect

During the teenage years, most of us tend to go through a multiple of social problems and this will eventually lead us to getting locked behind our own feelings and emotions. One of the best teen counseling therapy techniques comes in the form of group counseling, as this allows teens to meet other persons their age and connect with them. This allows them to improve the way they interact with the outside world, something that is very important.

Getting more confidence

Maybe the best thing about teen counseling is the fact that any adolescent has the unique opportunity to truly understand his power, skill and motivation, something that is very important in this day and age. Without knowing this it will be a lot harder to face the challenges that appear in life, and the adolescent counseling professional can help in a very positive fashion.

If your child is going through a hard time right now, then guiding him or her towards teen counseling might be the best option you can make. Not only does this help with achieving a good mental balance, but at the same time it will provide the proper guidance which is essential in the adolescent, developmental years. Don’t hesitate to contact Maesk Group Counseling in order to gain complete access to our teen counseling services immediately. You will be amazed at the high quality results and the amazing experience you can obtain by working with us - just send us an e-mail or call us right away at 954-353-4680!